So here we are two days into 2020 and already I get to change the way I look at things. I knew that I wanted to be fully committed to a plant based vegan lifestyle for the whole of 2020. I was already pretty much there for 2019 but not fully. In November and December I committed again, but I was still pretty junk food vegan and eating too many processed foods for me.
I knew that starting on January 1st I was going to take things seriously. For me this meant that I needed to plan ahead so I didn’t just eat whatever was around when I woke up in the morning.
We invited a few friends over for New Years Eve and encouraged them to stay the night so they wouldn’t have to drive home. I spend most of the day on New Years Eve making food to share with our friends and to have ready for breakfast in the morning.
I meal prepped like a pro. I shredded potatoes for hash browns, prepped tofu for pesto scrambled tofu, and made a loaf of bread. The people who came over are lovely friends from Scott’s work. They know we are mostly plant based and only brought items with dairy which was pretty thoughtful.
I had very grand plans to make the most delicious vegan dishes. They would take a bite and be like this is sooooo good! And I would look at them and reply, its vegan! No one was privy to my grand ideas though and the night/day did no turn out like I thought.
I made these lovely fresh Spring Rolls and peanut sauce. I was so proud of them and thought they look great! I was like oh no I only made 10! That won’t be enough for the six people who came over. It was more than enough because only one guest tried one! I think they looked too healthy compared to all the chips and quesso. I had like three and I was so happy.
The next morning I woke up and made breakfast for everyone. When I asked who wanted some they were all like “what is it?” I will just have potatoes and bread.
Like for real? Just potatoes and bread? Then I looked while they were eating and no one ate the potatoes other than my husband and I. I forgot that not everyone knows how good Turmeric is and I added like 1/2 teaspoon worth to the potatoes. Apparently, that was too much and people would not even try them. We took plates full of potatoes and bread crust, yes, they only ate the inside part of the bread, back to the kitchen.
While all of this was happening I was seriously doubting my cooking skills. My plans to show some nice people how great plant based cooking could be was a flop!
While I was spiraling in a web of self-doubt and judgmental thoughts, I realized that I woke up with my first test of my compassion. I decided that this year I would be a more compassionate person. On January 1, 2020 at 9:30 am I was given my first opportunity. I am not going to brag about how kind I was or how I turned the situation around and got them to eat a head of broccoli. Cause that isn’t what happened.
Instead, I tried my best to let it go. I thought about the expectation I had placed on people who had not asked me to put that expectation on them. I had just decided that these guys whom I had only seen eat Litter Ceasar’s Pizza and Dairy Queen chicken fingers would be hyped to eat vegan on New Years.
As I took their full plates into the kitchen I looked around at the leftover food they brought with them. Bags of Lays and Tostitos, ranch dip, iced blue sugar cookies. None of what they brought reflected a whole food.
In that moment I realized that if I am going to win anyone on a Standard American Diet over to eating just SOME plants I needed to up my game. Why start them with a tofu scramble? I was closer with the hash browns but they needed to be white and use some more oil. While I am not super keen on using a lot of oil, I am now considering it a tool in my quest to get people to eat more plants. I will up the fat, sugar, salt if I make anything for them again and slowly start to find a way to help them see that plants can be great.
I was really grateful to be reminded of how far I have come in my diet and to have some compassion for my friends who may not share my interest or knowledge on how great a plant based life is. My hope is renewed that I can share great food with friends and family and help them try something that might lead them down a more healthy path!